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16th Apr 2024

Mum slammed for breaking baby name promise to husband

Anna Martin

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Picking a baby name is no simple task

You don’t want to go with something that everyone else has used a hundred million times, or maybe you want to honour someone you love, or maybe there’s a family name you need to keep alive or…well you get the idea.

So you would think having a plan since before you even had kids with your other half would make things a bit easier.

Well, for one woman she decided to back out of the baby name agreement she had with her husband and now she wants to know if she’s in the wrong.

Explaining her side of the story on Reddit, the mystery woman wrote: “My husband and I have been married for 11 years and have 2 daughters.

“I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with our third child. I just had an ultrasound and we were able to determine the sex of the baby, a little boy. We have found out the sex of all of our children this way.”

All seems fun and exciting right? Well, now the issue is naming the baby which is something the father thought they had sorted out years ago.

Continuing her story she wrote: “My husband is a “third”. As in, John Smith III. Before we got married and we’re having discussions about kids, he did make it very clear that passing down his name was very important to him if we had a son.

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“At the time I thought it was really cute and adorable how much pride he took in it since most guys don’t really care about that sort of sentimental stuff. But as the years have gone by I’ve definitely cooled on the idea quite a bit and I don’t think I want to have our son be named after my husband that way.

“I told him how I know we had talked about this many times before with our other kids and that I technically agreed to it years ago, but I don’t think I want to name our son the same as my husband.”

So the woman broke it to her other half that she didn’t want to name their son after him despite having an agreement for over a decade and needless to say he was heartbroken.

“I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone’s mood change so quickly and visibly as my husband’s did in that moment. It was like all the joy went out of his body all at once. I told him that I just didn’t want our son to be a ‘fourth.’

“It seems tacky and has weird aristocratic vibes that just don’t seem right to me. I told him that I am not totally against the idea, but I don’t want to just agree to it right now because I want time to think about other names too.”

She went on to say that he has been distant from her ever since and is wondering if she was in the wrong for going back on her word.

Needless to say, her fellow Redditors weren’t impressed by her actions.

“You’re in the wrong. Your husband made it clear during the dating process how important this was to him,” penned one.

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“You made a commitment to him that this was something you were on board with. He married you and had a family with you on the pretence that you respected him and his family’s tradition.”

Another agreed writing: “You didn’t ‘technically agree’, you actually agreed. The fact that you said ‘technically agreed’ makes me feel like you know you are screwing up, but you are playing word games to back away from it.”

A third added: “Not only did you agree to this over a decade ago, you re-affirmed the agreement when you had each of your other children.

“Additionally, you don’t even give a rational reason why you’ve changed your mind, just you now suddenly think it’s tacky.”

What do you make of this baby name situation?