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23rd November 2021
07:57pm GMT

When they were next at a park and the boy needed the loo, the mum tried to get him to pee in a bush.
"He wouldn't and kept running back down the path, looking for somewhere else to go," she continued. "I tried to stop him and get him to go in the bush but he wouldn't, and got more and more distressed until he stopped and weed in his pants."
As a result, the mum is worried her son has gotten "mixed messages" over where is and isn't appropriate to pee.
Her post continued: "I'm not sure whether to raise it with nursery along the lines of 'what was said to him when he did this/I'm not sure it was particularly helpful to treat this as a wrongdoing in the context of ongoing toilet training/can we agree a consistent message for him going forwards' or whether actually this is entirely on us as parents.
"Obviously if he'd done it indoors there would be no ambiguity, but isn't it fairly normal for little boys to have a wee in a bush?"
Her post was met with criticism from amazed mums.
"I can’t believe you would seriously consider reproaching the nursery about this," one replied. "You can’t have children weeing in the garden, it's very unhygienic."
Other mums who had daughters were disgruntled by the seemingly double standard.
"Stop encouraging him to urinate in public and the problem goes away. The male entitlement here is just ridiculous," one wrote.
"...That is what the parents of young daughters must do because encouraging them to expose themselves in public is obviously not acceptable. Little hint, it’s not acceptable for boys either."
Another said: "Of course you shouldn’t raise it obviously. I mean what do you want them to do, allow your child to pee wherever he feels like? That’s not really being toilet trained is it? The clue is in the name – he should be using the toilet.
"Nurseries can’t have children learning the lesson that they can take their clothes off outside or anywhere they like. Imagine Ofsted [the UK's Office for Standards in Education, Children's Services and Skills] coming and being treated to little boys pulling their pants down in the garden and using it as a toilet, presumably where other kids then play with toys.
"And what about girls? Should they just pull their pants down and squat? It’s just an issue on so many levels."Explore more on these topics: