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10th Jun 2022

Yikes! Mum starts a massive debate after sharing the ‘key’ to a happy marriage


People were NOT impressed.

A woman has started a huge debate after she shared her “key” to a happy marriage.

American mum Holly Simon revealed her relationship advice in a Facebook post earlier this year, where she detailed all of the picking up she does after her husband.

But rather than seeing it as a bad thing, she insisted it was actually a “gift”.

She began [via the Mirror]:

“Every day I pick up the towel he hangs on our curtain rod & throw it on a hook in the bathroom, put his hair gel back in the bathroom drawer that was 3in from where he placed it, close literally every. dresser. drawer, and pick up at least two pairs of his shoes somewhere in the house.

“As a younger wife (especially in the baby & toddler zone) this often made me irritated. ‘Don’t I have enough to clean up days after the kids!’ years ago I actually felt bitterness about it.

“But these little things represent his presence in our home. What if they weren’t there each day? What else would be missing from our lives? His laugh, his comfort, his guidance? How many women and children are living that harsh sadness?

“The scattered trail of his daily routine means I have a husband who keeps coming home. I’m not doing life on my own. I’m not raising my girls by myself.”

“And that is a cause for gratitude, not irritation. If you’re in that mode sister, take a breath, this is a common attitude trap for us. And you’re most likely tired.

“But remember- it’s not ‘your burden’, it’s your gift.”  

Her post started a huge debate online, with many women disagreeing with Holly’s words.

One person commented: “I think her husband is immature and completely disrespectful.

“She is not his mother but his wife. He needs to grow up and be her partner in the home. She needs to stop making excuses for him.”

Someone else said: “I feel like ‘coming home’ is a really low expectation of a husband and father.”

Another wrote: “Y’all really think it’s rude to tell your man to pick up after himself? Respect yourselves. Stop taking care of grown manbabies.”