Being raised by a working mum has long-lasting benefits to both girls and boys
We can all ease up on the 'mom guilt' now it seems.
I always knew I would be a working mum – being raised in Norway, it is simply what everyone does – even my grandmothers had careers alongside being mothers.
I love motherhood – it is the most fantastic thing I have ever done. But I also love my job – and I can't imagine not being able to do both – I know it wouldn't make me happy. And yes, I know I am lucky in that I had a full year's paid maternity leave and felt ready to go back to work when I did. And I have some flexibility, which is great.
But the thing is - I still sometimes feel that dreaded 'mum guilt' from time to time – because yes, being a working mother does take some juggling. And it does mean that my kids sometimes have to wait while I reply to an e-mail or chase a deadline.
And, just like it is for other working mums too, it might even mean missing a football match here or there, or a ballet show or other smaller or bigger things. I make every effort not to, but sometimes, holding down a job and being a mum, well, it can be a lot.
However, maybe we should all stop feeling so guilty?
Working mums benefit both girls and boys – in different ways
A 2015 Harvard Business School study found that adult children raised by mums who worked outside of the home experienced significant career boosts of their own.
In particular, researchers discovered that women with working mamas were more likely to be employed, work as supervisors and earn at least 23 percent more than women with at-home mums.
It also benefits boys in the long term.
Men with mothers who worked were more likely to spend time taking care of family members and doing chores around the house, according to the research—meaning that working mums help promote more equal levels of responsibilities.
“There are very few things that we know of, that have such a clear effect on gender equality as being raised by a working mother," says Kathleen L. McGinn, a Harvard business professor who co-led the study.
“The direct effects are significant across the board."
More resarch was done on children of working mums, and what the Harvard researchers found, was that not only did having a working mother make a children more likely to succeed in their job, it also made them happy.
In a press release, the researcher state:
Now the full study has been released, and it brings even more good news for the children of working moms: They wind up just as happy in adulthood as the children of moms who stayed home.
Harvard Business School Professor Kathleen McGinn hopes the findings bring a big sigh of relief for guilt-ridden mothers who either have to hold down a job to make ends meet or simply choose to work outside the home while raising their children.
“People still have this belief that when moms are employed, it’s somehow detrimental to their children,” says McGinn, the Cahners-Rabb Professor of Business Administration. “So our finding that maternal employment doesn’t affect kids’ happiness in adulthood is really important.”
This isn’t about raising happier kids. When women choose to work, it’s a financial and personal choice. Women should make that choice based on whether they want or need to work, not based on whether they are harming their children—because they are not.”