“My kids won’t be alone with her”
I’ll forever feel grateful to have two caring and witty grandmothers in my life.
Your nanny is the one who is there to comfort you on the bad days, who makes the best cups of tea, and will chat on the phone for hours on end.
They’re so full of love and support.
The last thing they should do is make you feel less than.
One grandmother caused major harm when she commented on her granddaughter’s “Covid weight gain”.
Teenage girls are already riddled with insecurities and self-doubt, the last thing they need is their family pointing out issues for them to worry about.
The young girl’s mum explained that her mother has always bragged about how slim and healthy she is.
The damaging comments surrounding weight started when the mother was a young girl.
“When I was about 4 I remember watching a feed the children commercial with her. She pointed to the little starving children with big bloated bellies and told me that if I didn’t eat I would look like them. Apparently, I wasn’t a big eater back then. It struck me as a 4-year-old so much that I went to the fridge and grabbed a carrot to eat.”
The cruel and harmful comments continued into the mother’s teen years and have now been pushed onto her daughter.
“My mom still makes comments to me about my weight. Straight out called me fat in front of my husband and stepdad. Both were shocked. We were at a funeral at the time.”
“My oldest daughter is a teen. She is tall and womanly for her age. She is by no means fat. She is stunning and could be a model. I have no doubt she will be 5 foot 9 by the time she is done growing,” the mum told Reddit.
She explained that the grandmother was visiting one day when she made the nasty remark about her daughter’s size.
“She made the comment in front of my youngest who is half my older daughter’s age. She said that it was good my daughter had started track because of the covid weight she had gained.”
“I kind of scuffed and said “She is going through early puberty. She has hips and a butt because she is turning into a woman.”
She shared, “My youngest said something about how she needs to practice running too. She loves to run and wants to be the fastest. My mom told her that she didn’t need to lose much weight. She said this to my 8-year-old.”
Later that evening, the mother wrote to the grandmother and told her to never speak about her children’s weight.
“I let her know that I struggled with bulimia as a teen and I don’t want my kids to go through that. I let her know it made me feel uncomfortable and that I no longer wanted to hold anger towards her but if such comments continued I would find that difficult.”
The grandmother never replied to her message and ignored her for weeks.
She showed up at her daughter’s house for a family event, but the mother has stressed that she will never let her comment on her daughter’s appearance or weight ever again.
“My husband and I agreed though: My kids won’t be alone with her. I will shut down weight talk.”
The mum definitely made the right move here.
Teenagers have so many worries and stresses in their life as it is.
Nobody needs to be abused over their size or the label on their clothes.
Surely being healthy is far more important?
Shouldn’t grandparents use their time with their grandchildren to make happy memories and to make life better for them?
