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20th Jan 2023

Mum admits she secretly feeds her child’s vegan friend meat

Ellen Fitzpatrick

How would you feel if this was your kid?

A mother on Reddit has sparked a massive debate after she admitted that she has been secretly feeding her daughter’s vegan friend meat.

Asking if others thought she was in the wrong, she defended herself by saying she had been doing it as the friend, who she calls “M”, is “much smaller and paler” than her daughter.

Explaining that the friend has been vegan all her life as it is her family’s belief, “M” eats meat and other animal products while visiting this woman’s house.

She said: “My daughter and her friend M are both 12 years old and like to have sleepovers every now and then.

“M’s family maintains a strict vegan diet where she isn’t even allowed to drink milk. Her parents are nice people although a bit on the neurotic side.

“M is a bright young girl and she’s a good friend to my daughter but I noticed how much smaller and paler she is compared to my daughter. I think it’s likely tied to her family’s diet.”

Feeding her various meat-based meals and dairy products, she revealed that even the snacks she feeds her friend are full of meat.

She continued: “So whenever she is over I always make a big meaty meal for them. Last weekend I made some cheeseburgers and steak for them on the grill with a big glass of milk. M absolutely loves it and always politely asks for more (which I happily provide).”

“For snacks, I give them some of my venison jerky. For breakfast, I typically make a big plate of scrambled eggs and bacon again with a big glass of milk.

“Despite her size M always wolfs down whatever I make. And I have to say every time she leaves it looks like she has a healthy glow to her.

“I know I probably shouldn’t be doing this but I think M is a bit malnourished (nothing against vegans or anything). She knows she’ll get in big trouble if she tells her folks. (I think she fibs a bit to her parents about what she eats). AITA for letting my daughter’s vegan friend eat meat?”

People in the comments couldn’t believe what they were reading, with many completely opposed to what she was doing.

One said: “Not your place to decide how someone else raises their kid. If you think there’s an issue, talk to them. If you think the issue borders on abuse, talk to the authorities.”

Another said: “You are not her doctor. This isn’t your choice to make. Undermining her parents’ dietary choices is going to do more harm than good for her.

“To jump from a strict plant-based diet to one heavy with dairy and meat and then to go right back to strict plant-based, that shocks the body so to speak. If you’re concerned about her health, talk to her parents.”

While some claimed the 12-year-old was “old enough” to make her own decisions about what she eats, the vast majority of people were not one bit happy with how this parent was handling the situation.