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16th Feb 2024

‘Is it wrong to be jealous of my stay-at-home partner?’

Kat O'Connor


This mum is struggling with her stay-at-home partner

A mum has sparked a debate online after revealing she’s somewhat jealous of her stay-at-home partner.

She explained that her boyfriend stays at home with their six-month-old baby because childcare is too expensive.

The mum admitted she feels a little resentful because her partner gets to spend so much more time with their child.

However, she has always been the one that brings in the money whereas her partner has “always been bad with money- making it and retaining it”.

She wrote on Reddit: “I’ve been reluctantly covering for him financially for years, so I knew what I was getting myself into when we had our baby.

“With the cost of childcare and the fact that I really don’t want my baby to be taken care of by strangers, it only made sense for him to be a stay-at-home dad.

“I’m worried that our bond won’t be as strong as theirs someday”

She said it finally feels like her partner is contributing but she misses her daughter so much when she isn’t home.

“At least he would finally be contributing. Even though I am grateful to be in a position where I can support our family comfortably, and so happy that she gets to be at home with her dad all day instead of strangers, there’s a part of me that’s kind of sad and resentful that he gets to be at home with her and I don’t.

She continued: “I miss her so much. Right now she has a preference for me, but I’m worried that our bond won’t be as strong as theirs someday only because we simply don’t have the opportunity to bond as much.

“Has anyone else felt resentful of their stay-at-home partners? And do your babies prefer the stay-at-home parent more than you? How do you cope?” she asked.

The mum wasn’t the only one who felt this way because other parents echoed the same feelings. Many said it’s a difficult choice mothers have to make but what matters most is that your baby is happy.