Sonya Lennon reveals ‘judgement’ her daughter, 17, experienced when buying pregnancy test
This is pretty shocking.
We all know how people can be quick to judge – and heck, we might even have to check ourselves sometimes too.
But when it happens to our children, it somehow just hits differently, I think.
Taking to LinkedIn in a post that has since gone viral, TV presenter and entrepreneur Sonya Lennon explained what had happened to her daughter recently, when she went into a local chemist to buy a pregnancy test.
The reason for her daughter buying the test, Lennon explains – not that she should ever have to explain herself – is that the 17-year-old is currently taking the powerful anti-acne drug Roaccutane.
And with this drug, the TV presenter explains, there is a high risk that severe birth defects will result if pregnancy occurs while taking the drug.
And what this means, is that one of the conditions attached to taking the drug in Ireland is to agree to abstain from sexual intercourse or to go on birth control to prevent pregnancy from occurring.
“Before every monthly prescription for Roaccutane is issued my seventeen-year-old daughter must present a negative pregnancy test to prove that she is still eligible to take the drug,” Lennon wrote.
“For eight months now, our smart, self-possessed daughter has gone into pharmacies to buy these pregnancy tests. Every time without fail, someone, usually a customer, smirks, makes a disparaging comment, intimates a judgement or does something which leads to her feeling like she has to explain herself, which she does not."
And on her daughter's most recent trip to the chemist, things got worse.
“This month, the side head nod and involuntary laugh came from one pharmacy staff member to another. That was too much.”
Lennon explains that she decided to talk to staff in the pharmacy, asking them "to suspend judgement and think twice before making assumptions.”
“They were very embarrassed and apologised unreservedly.”
Speaking to the Lennon said: “I know it's human nature [to judge]. I've studied unconscious bias, the psychology of judgement. I still make judgements on people, we all do.",
“For me, the important part of the post was to just start to question the judgements that we make, through the lens of empathy and understanding and not knowing all the facts.
“My purpose was not to go in [to the pharmacy] and chastise them. It was to broaden their awareness.
“As I said, in the post, these are not bad people, they're all of us. And when I spoke to the person in the pharmacy, I said, 'what's really important to me is that you share this with all your colleagues.
“It's not about one individual. It's about how we behave on a day to day has an impact on other people.
"We forget sometimes that our words and actions have consequences.”
The fashion designer said the post has reached a quarter of a million people on the business networking site since she posted it earlier this week.
“It’s really touched a nerve with people.”