One mum’s tear-inducing letter to her 12 remaining embryos

Both beautiful and heart-breaking.

Many will know of the struggle that is trying to conceive, and the toll IVF can take on the lives of a couple wanting a child – whether it be emotionally, physically or financially.

Many will say there is nothing harder than IVF while you yearn so much for a family.

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One mum who created a blog purely to speak out about the ups and downs of trying to conceive is Desiree Fortin. Desperate to start a family – infertility had Desiree and her husband Ryan stuck at a place in their lives where they did not want to be.

They chose to use IVF in the hopes of creating their dream family. After arduous stages throughout the process the couple would be ecstatic when they soon learned Desiree was expecting.

Absolutely elated with the news, not only was mum pregnant – she was pregnant with triplets. After much excitement and after giving birth to three beautiful healthy babies, Desiree and Ryan still had 12 remaining frozen embryos.

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It’s here she made a heartfelt decision to donate her embryos to other couples trying to conceive. She soon took to Instagram to share a genuine, honest and truly emotive take on the subject.

She said,

“The day we learned there were 14 of you we instantly knew our story of hope wasn’t just for us… If we decided to have another baby and had the opportunity to bring one of you into this world, we know we could only take one of you.”

New blog Up: To my 12 remaining embryos, The day we learned there were 14 of you we instantly knew our story of hope wasn’t just for us. You have been frozen now for almost 3 years. Sometimes my infertility feels like a distant memory and other times the pain and anguish of an empty womb floods my heart like it was just yesterday. My body went through a lot just in hopes that God would give me one of you. So when the Doctor called to tell us there were 14 of you, we were in shock.I have been thinking about you a lot lately. I don’t know if we will be going back for another round of IVF. Your siblings are triplets and it is kind of a lot right now. If we decided to have another baby and had the opportunity to bring one of you into this world, we know we could only take one of you. I wish we could take all of you, but I know in my heart that God didn’t make you so I could keep all of you just for myself. It saddens me because I honestly can’t bare the thought of some else raising you. And truthfully, it is hard for me to accept that someone else will be your Mom. She will be the one to hold you when you are sad, help you when you are sick, keep you safe when you are scared. She will be the one you depend on, the one you cry for, the one you make all your memories with. She will love you with a special kind of love a Mother has for her child. She will know you. She will watch you take your first steps, hear your first words. She will be the one to watch you grow up, graduate from school, and one day get married and have children of your own. I can feel the jealousy in my heart just thinking about her sharing those moments with you. I grieve not knowing you like she will know you. I grieve not being able to look deep into those beautiful eyes of yours and tell you how much I love you. I grieve giving you to her. You won’t be mine anymore. However, as much as I call you mine, or even one day hers, the truth is, you are God’s perfectly made little snowflakes. And I have to trust in what God told me in the very beginning: “You are hope, hope for many.” Continue reading: link in Bio. #infertilityjourney #todayshow #lovewhatmatters #takebackpostpartum

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The mum who has continued throughout to give a truly authentic view of the entire process also said,

“It saddens me because I honestly can’t bear the thought of some else raising you. She will be the one you depend on, the one you cry for, the one you make all your memories with… As much as I call you mine, or even one day hers, the truth is, you are God’s perfectly made little snowflakes.”