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14th October 2019
01:00pm BST
Because our words are powerful – and don't think our children don't pick up on them – even if the words were said under your breath or even just spoken inside our head.[/caption]
According to Psychology Today, self-derogatory comments about our own bodies can have a long-lasting negative effect on our daughter's own self-image.
"It is important for mums to be aware that our self-derogatory comments are not just hurting ourselves but our daughters as well," says Laura Choate, licensed professional counsellor and author of Swimming Upstream: Parenting Girls for Resilience in a Toxic Culture. "It is damaging to girls when they hear their mums criticise their own bodies."
In fact, Choate notes that one of the strongest predictors for whether a girl will have a negative body image is if her own mother has a negative body image. It also reinforces the toxic message pervasive in our society that physical appearance is the most important aspect of identity for girls and women. "Mums have to take an intentional stand to make sure that this cultural message isn't perpetuated in our homes," asserts Choate.
To help instil positive self-esteem and a healthy self-image in girls, she recommends keeping in mind that mothers are the mirrors for how their daughters see themselves. Meaning, of course, we should be celebrating our bodies in whichever shape, size, and variance it comes in. And avoid complaining about how we look in a swimsuit – or in any other clothing, and also don't criticise other women because of their appearance.
"We can't change the media, pop culture, or fashion industry, but we can change what we say and do to protect our daughters' self-esteem and resilience."Explore more on these topics:
